life moments - early june

1. Loco Tanquera in South Boston - amazing fish tacos and rustic setting!

2. Boston Commons post internship - I have to get some fresh air somehow

3. View from the reflecting pool - Boston is flawless on warm summer nights 

4. Target run - shoes | bag | similar pants | similar sweater

5. interning assisting, sounds much better

6. "I have no time for this" - watch 

7. whats life without gelato? I can never choose one. - sweatshirt  (currently less than $20)

8. "True Life - My Moms Adorable" (and I got a promotion) - dress | bracelet 1-2-3 

9. these do not need an explanation - exact pair

The beginning of June is always so amazing.  The weather warms up, school ends (for most), and then beach dose not seem so far away.  A perfect June would include the ending of school work, beach days, barbecues, outdoor exploration, and a lot of reuniting with friend.  Sadly I work a full time job so my fun is limited to about one day a week (and usually it rains on that day) but I make the most of the free time that I do get!

- Kay

life too short to play it safe.

There is just something about realizing that life is too short.  When I think about all the time I have waisted wondering about what everyone else was thinking I would have saved a lot of time... life is too short to wonder about everyone else, they really don't matter.  I have started to live life thinking only about those who have a direct impact on my life, it has lifted such a weight off my shoulder, my stress levels have decreased to an all time low, and my confidence has increased beyond anything I could have ever imagined. 

- no ones opinion matters aside from your own.

- nothing great will happen without confidence.

- once you believe in yourself, others will believe in you. 

live your life. 

xo, kay

coast (verb): to move forward with the flow

There's nothing like a little time away.  It could be an hour, a day, a week - taking time alone (or with a close friend) is sometimes all you need. This trip to Virginia has been the most relaxing time I have had in too long.  I usually have issues with change but this week I have learned to just let it be. Things happen- some hotels won't check you in unless your 21, sometimes uber drivers don't show up and your stranded in the middle of nowhere alone while your phone dies, and there days that the rain comes pouring down it feels like a monsoon is coming but that's life. 

Coasting along dose not have to be negative, it can reduce stress and that's something everyone needs!  The way I look at it, you can either go with the current, or against it.

- Kay 

getaway (noun): an escape or quick departure

Sometimes everything caves in at once and you need to leave... 

pack a bag and book a flight to somewhere you have never been.

On that note, Monday I will be getting on a plane to Virginia to make a brief getaway from life.  Unfortunately I will eventually have to come back but I need a break.  After a long time of feeling sorry for myself I have realized that it is okay not to be okay.  Everyone has struggles, stress, and sorrow weather it shows or not.  We all have things that are difficult to talk about or situations that make us feel vulnerable but thats life and it goes on, stay positive and let go of things that can not be controlled.   

What to do when you feel like there is nothing you can do: 

Cry a good cry lets it all out... it might take a couple of hours or an entire day but holding it in only makes it worse (just make sure you have some tissues, or a towel).  When your done crying think of something you can do (like hop on a plane), say (example: sorry), or eat (cookie butter) that might make the situation better.  If there is nothing you can do move on, it might take a week, or a month, or much longer but take time to work on things that are important.   "This too shall pass"- is something I say to myself daily because the truth is that it will pass, time heals.  

-Kay 

photo source

Take a Leap of Faith

flats | planner | glasses | coffee mug 

"We have all a better guide in ourselves than any other person can be" 

Throughout life we are always pointed in the direction of people that can help guide us.  It doesn't matter who that person may be, there is nothing they can do that can mold your life. Yes, they can answer questions.  Yes, they can point you in a direction that you may not have found yourself. The one thing they can't do is create the life that suits you, simply because they are not you.  I am a firm believer that no one can make you happier than yourself.  With that said I will respectfully take advice from others while doing what I think is best for me.  

Believing in yourself is sometimes hard, theres always going to be someone who is going to try to knock your dreams or tell you to "be realistic".  Ignore those comments and keep doing what your doing because they don't pay your bills… or live your life.  Yes, it's a good idea to stay realistic with things like time and money but the overall possibilities are endless and fabulous careers are not just handed out like free samples.   

Do what you want, make mistakes, but learn from them.  Be true to yourself, your values, your guidelines.

-Kay

conquer (verb): overcome and take control

There are numerous things that I should and will conquer this year: 

1. my life in general.

2. my lack of realistic thinking.

3. my habit of interrupting people. 

and plenty of other things that I will not bear to bore you with.  

There is no need to type out all my issues for the world wide web (I'll save myself some dignity) but I will talk about conquering my life as a whole on an edited level.  I ask myself the same question every week, "Why are you not where you want to be?".  I never come up with a solid answer but,  I usually have a couple of excuses that would work if I was not telling them to myself... 

The answer is really so simple:  I am not where I want to be because I choose to play it safe.  

Safe is simple and effortless.  The issue is that the life I want is anything but simple, it's the exact opposite of simple. The life I want is filled with adventure, challenge, hard work, sleepless nights, and risky decisions.  There is really no time to waste.  I may not be ready to stop playing it safe, but will I ever actually be ready?  I have made a definitive choice to take charge in my life and go for what I want.  Nobody is going to hand me an amazing job with unlimited vacation days and a corner office.  I'll do that for myself, and it won't just be the corner office.  It will be the entire office, with a view, and lots of sunlight.  

Conquer your life.

- write down goals: weekly, monthly, yearly

- work towards those goals

- remind yourself of your goals

- see the bigger picture

- set up a inspiration board

- educate yourself, take a class, read a book

- surround yourself with motivated individuals

-do not give up

snowpocalypse (noun): more snow than you would ever need, or could imagine

It has been about a week since some serious snow hit the city of Boston (and surrounding area).  I must ask why it is still causing such commotion?  My commute is longer, there are no parking spaces, and people are scared to drive above 25 mph (... move your car).  But, lets think about this for a second, it's New England... as much as I hate the unpredictable weather I know there is always a chance for things to get a bit crazy.  The amount of snow that mother earth has blessed upon us is a bit more than expected   but I know we will all be complaining about the heat and humidity this summer...
For those of you in warmer places, I am happy for you that you do not have to battle with your neighbor for a parking space or spend countless hours getting stuck on a side street that no one saw fit to plow.
- Kay

revamp (verb): to renovate, redo, or revise

I see this blog as a small symbol of my life.  When times were good, I was consistent & when times were bad, I simply gave up.  Lately I have been doing a lot of thinking, rethinking, and even more thinking.  I have come to the conclusion that the amount of focus that I have put on my life is not enough.  I focus more time on thinking about ways to improve my life than actually acting upon ways to improve it.  I can blame my current challenge on anything I want: work, relationships, a lack of time; what it really comes down to is myself, I am the cause of the unhappiness and lack of satisfaction. 

Yes, that took a while for me to accept but it is 100% true.  There is not a single person that can improve my life but myself.  This revamp is not just for my blog… its for my life.  A revamped, renovated, revised life.  I am taking control and I am not going to stand in my own way.

Heres to revamping.  

transition: summer dress

For those summer dresses your just not get ready to part with, 

put a sweater on it! 

This dress was one of my summer favorites and so easy to pair with multiple sweaters because of the simplicity of the colors (this or this).  I picked up the bright pink sweater from H&M ages ago (similar) and i'm glad to still be rocking it!  This outfit was comfortable for sight seeing and added some brightness to an already sunny day.  In my eyes the outfit was not complete without a big necklace. So I added one to pull it all together. The one i'm wearing is from Francesca's but I also like this!